“trans affirming” therapist
This video is based on intake I did with a therapist at the Institute for Human Identity a few years ago. Another trans person had a good experience with a therapist there, but I got assigned to someone else and it didn’t go so well. A lot of the dialogue from the therapist is verbatim what I remember him saying to me. Only some of my responses are accurate to life, though. I didn’t actually tell him he was a jerk, for example, but I found it rather satisfying to do so in this video.
It isn’t really just about one intake, though. Even though I live in an urban area–and have a lot of class privilege and race privilege–I have still had a really hard time finding therapists whose transphobia doesn’t seriously interfere with any work we could do together. Going to a therapist is such a vulnerable process; it’s particularly painful to experience prejudice in that setting.
Transphobia has manifested quite differently for different therapists I’ve spoken with, but a fascination with my body and an inability to check their preconceptions long enough to listen to my actual experiences are common themes.